5 Friends Every Woman Should Have

Taken from oprah.com

"Friends are the family we choose for ourselves," writer Edna Buchanan once said. I consider the "family" I've gathered—with five kinds of pals I count on for completely different things—among the wisest choices I've made. If you can find even one who embodies any of the characteristics that follow, you can consider yourself fortunate.


1. The Uplifter

This woman's favorite word: yes. You could tell her you're trading your six-figure income for a career in offtrack betting, and she'd barely pause before yelping "Go for it!" Don't you need someone who looks past the love handles to notice the extraordinarily gorgeous you?

The friends: Farahin, Mariam, Malizah a.k.a school buddies! The ones whom I speak out my ideas to, the ones who have the same interests and hobbies as I do. The one whom I know since I was nine (Farahin), the ones who have been sitting next to me since form 1 till form 4 (Mariam and Malizah)

2. The Travel Buddy

When the hotel in St. Lucia is a bust, one characteristic becomes all-important: flexibility. This agreeable companion need not be the girl you traded pinkie swears with on the playground; it's enough that she's comfortable with quiet (between gabfests) and is a teensy bit mischievous (as in tequila after midnight).

The friends: Syidah(2-years in CFS roommate @my first ever roommate), Soul (cranky, sometimes-annoying, sarcastic, supportive good friend cum next room neighbour for 2 years), Explorace Teammate(Syidah and Soul included, Suhaila, Afzan). =)

3. The Truth Teller

Intent is what separates the constructive from the abusive. Once you've established that the hard news is spoken in love (not in jealousy or malice), you'd be smart to seek out this woman's perspective.

The friends: JAMIE, childhood schoolmate since nine, one of the trusted people whom I shared secrets with :P, HAZIE who could be quite sarcastic and supportive sometimes (belajar daripada siapa ni hah?), SYIDAH (the closest friend ever in CFS) and SOUL (the one who could be painfully frank and honest sometimes) not forgetting the ever so sweet Farahin =)

4. The Girl Who Just Wants to Have Fun

One Saturday a pal and I—and yes, we're both over age 12—pored over every glitter lip gloss in a drugstore aisle for an entire 45 minutes. Forget the crisis download (for that, see the Uplifter); this partnership is about spontaneous good times.

THE FRIENDS: Hazie (geng kongsi gelap), Syidah(okay, tak payah cakap), Soul (asyik orang sama je, LOL), jiran-jiran yang selalu datang lepak bilik, dan saya lepak pegi bilik diorang, my girl classmates in CFS dari sem 1 first year sampai final sem 2nd year, My CONVENT SCHOOLMATES. :D

5. The Unlikely Friend

"Each friend represents a world in us, a world possibly not born until they arrive," Anaïs Nin wrote. My friends—some twice my age, others half, some rich, others homeless, some black like me, others Korean, Mexican, Caucasian—have added richness to my life that only variety can bring.

The friends: Eurasian friends, Chinese friends, Indian friends, Chindians (Chinese plus Indian), Mandians (Malay plus Indian), Chinese+Malay, Thai friends, Arabic+malay, friends from Africa (nama pun duduk UIA, kan), more friends of that sort, online friends, blog friends, twitter friends, facebook friends, (ok why semua online?), friends all over Malaysia, childhood friends, neighbours, friends I meet during debate and other school competitions, friends in the school bus, jiran-jiran bilik sebelah, juniors from school and CFS,  Kakak dekat kiosk ZC. Makcik yang jaga kaunter dekat cafe tu. Okay, gotta go find more friends. :P